was working at a public relations firm and had a client
who was a young, single, gorgeous music video producer --
in short, the kind of guy I surely never met at a singles
dance. He was exciting, good looking, and made me forget
the many frustrations of singlehood. While we actually
never dated, we went out as friends, and I was on Cloud
Nine just spending time with him and hearing stories
about the music scene.
IT'S TIME TO ESCAPE THE BIG APPLE"
Singles Travel as a Meeting Option
you have to leave New York in order to meet a
"mensch" from New York. For those who aren't
sure, a mensch means "decent, responsible
person, and I like to add who even your mother
would love." (For some of us, mom's approval is
important.) That is exactly how I met my husband
of seven years.
He was planning to sponsor a rock concert in Estonia in
the Baltics (not Astoria in Queens), and I was going to
go along to promote it. Last minute, the plans fell
through due to lack of funding, and suddenly my romantic
bubble was burst. I had no vacation plans, no friend to
travel with because of the last minute notice, and
needless to say, I was depressed and feeling sorry for
myself. But, I did not give in to these emotions. Instead
I searched for a trip, and signed up for a singles tour
to London and Paris for two weeks. I went by myself,
which was the first time I had ever done such a thing.
Was I scared? Yes! Do I regret it? No!!! Not only did I
meet the man I married, but I learned many a lesson in
the process which I will share with you.
#1 -- DON'T BE AFRAID TO DO THINGS BY YOURSELF. If
friends aren't available, go anyway. This holds true
whether you're thinking of going to a singles function
or a trip. Often you're better off being alone,
because it really forces you to initiate conversation,
and meet new people. Also, if you get a roommate, you
could wind up being best buddies. (This actually
happened to me when I went to Club Med one
#2 - FATE OFTEN PLAYS A ROLE IN DETERMIING WHEN AND
HOW YOU MAY MEET MR. OR MRS. RIGHT - but, you have to
help fate along. That means not only being in the
right place, but having the right attitude. You need
to try new things and keep an open mind.
#3 - DON'T VIEW A SINGLES TRIP AS THE BE ALL AND END
ALL. If you meet someone, it's icing on the cake, but
you should first be excited about the locale you've
chosen to visit. If you're busy sightseeing and having
a great time, you won't be so worried about finding
the love of your life...and that's when you will
probably meet (remember what I said about
#4 - CONSIDER GOING AWAY EVEN FOR JUST A WEEKEND. Going away for a long weekend can do wonders for the
body and mind. Some spas attract singles, or you can
always check out places like Club Getaway, a golf
school(good way to meet men), and even a camping
me offer you the following tips when it comes to
selecting a singles trip or vacation spot:
up and ask what the ratio is of men to women. * Make
sure the age group is right for you. You don't want to
get stuck on a vacation with people who you feel
aren't suitable for one reason or another. Trips are
usually categorized "Under 40" & "Over
a location you're excited to visit, so you know you'll
have a great time no matter what.
you're thinking of a cruise - remember that most of
your time is spent on the ship, so it can be
confining. * Trips with outdoor activity (i.e.
kayaking, biking, hiking, etc.) tend to be male
dominated. So, women keep that in mind. * The Hamptons
& Fire Island are always popular retreats for
single New Yorkers who join share houses every summer.
If you're thinking of descending on this scene, now's
the time to check out the ads in the Village Voice.
Remember, that whatever house you choose to join, you
will undoubtedly get little sleep, but have a good
time. Just make sure you're comfortable with the other
house members, otherwise it can be a
book, HOW TO MEET A MENSCH IN NEW YORK (City &
Company, $12.95), has a whole chapter devoted to travel
and will give you info on places mentioned above, as
well as countless other ideas. Check it out in the NY
section of your local bookstore or Purchase here from Order Here.
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